Parental Development
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs we'll ever have. Dr. Leah Featherstone, clinical psychologist, and her sister, Beka Dean both grew up in a very traditional, conservative family, with a parenting style to match. Through her education and experience, Leah has moved away from that approach and now uses principles of attachment, relational neurobiology, and positive parenting to raise her own kids. The sisters talk through this new approach, with the goal of promoting cooperation and enhancing relationships between adults and the children they help to nurture, support, and raise.
Episodes
124 episodes
Things that make you go hmmm
This episode is a little all over the place, but we talk through triggers, doing our personal work, and learning how to respect the opinions and ideas of others.
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Season 4
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Episode 123
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34:10
Grades
This conversation talks about grades and how we use them in school. Alfie Kohn, a leading researcher in behaviorism and rewards has articles posted here and
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Season 4
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Episode 122
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49:10
Detective
How do you validate your kid's feelings without validating their negative beliefs about themself? How do you remain curious and compassionate while also managing your own regulation? Ultimately, we need to be detectives and get to ...
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Season 4
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Episode 121
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37:56
Food for Thought
What do you do when people start talking to you kids about things or in ways you don't agree with? This episode explores when Lincoln's pediatrician made comments about his weight in front of him. Say it with me: we do not comment ...
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Season 4
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Episode 119
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36:18
Guess Who's Back
We're back, baby! We needed some time away for our own sanity, so now we're back and ready to keep sharing our conversations!
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Season 4
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Episode 118
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23:42
Replay: Expectations (Part 2)
We cut last week's episode short, so we needed another one to finish our conversation about expectations.In last week's episode we talked about the need to lower expecta...
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Season 3
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Episode 117
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36:53
Replay: Lower Your Expectations
This episode talks through the expectations we have for our kids, how to make sure they're realistic and look at them differently, through this new parenting lens.Can we differentiate our DESIRES for our kids from the EXPECTATIONS of ou...
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Season 3
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Episode 116
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40:57
All That Really Matters
The moral of this week's episode: Nothing matters other than your relationship with your child!What doesn't matter: grades; behavior; attitude; sportsWhat does matter: Our relationship My job as a parent isn't to contr...
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Season 3
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Episode 115
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29:24
Knowledge Is Power
How do we treat our kids like full human people without treating them like adults and forcing them to grow up too quickly. Let's talk about it!Treating our kids like full people simply means that we welcome all of their humanness and do...
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Season 3
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Episode 114
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37:25
Not Quite Done Yet
This episode finishes our conversation about bias, inclusion, and how our brains are wired for sameness , making these changes hard.In order to start to change our unconscious beliefs, we first have to bring it into our conscious awaren...
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Season 3
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Episode 113
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36:21
Unconscious Bias
This episode talks about what can sometimes be a taboo or hard topic: bias, diversity, and race. We utilize science to talk through how our brains are wired for sameness and build bias into our system, in order to protect us.For more in...
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Season 3
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Episode 112
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47:02
We Back
Guess who's back!!! We're slowly getting back into the swing of things with our first episode of the new year! This episode talks about several topics and situations we encountered over the last few weeks and different approaches and suggestion...
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Season 3
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Episode 111
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31:45
My Way or the Highway
It's our last episode of 2023!! This one talks through various topics, including lying, managing big behaviors, and managing different opinions of family members. You can hear our episode on lying
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Season 3
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Episode 110
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43:46
If/Then
Last week was all about learning what our attachment style is, now this episode takes about what to do about it.We have no control over how our attachment is developed. We do have control over how we adjust moving forward.Attach...
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Season 3
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Episode 109
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40:00
Getting to Know You
This episode talks about adult attachmen styles, which is important for us to learn, so we can understand how we relate to others, including our children.We need to normalize all attachment styles, while also understanding that we can w...
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Season 3
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Episode 108
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46:53
Our Healing
This episode dives deeper into the relationship between parents and adult children. What do those relationships look like now? What if parents aren't able to do what you need? How do you know if you're ready to have hard conversations?
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Season 3
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Episode 107
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42:48
A Little Bit Of This And A Little Bit Of That
This episode is a little bit of everything, all based on situations happening in Leah's house.How do we validate anxiety without contributing to it? How do we challenge unhealthy thoughts without being invalidating? How do we just sit i...
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Season 3
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Episode 106
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43:44
Let Them Struggle
All parents desperately want to protect their kids, which is a great and noble goal. At the same time, overly protecting our kids in certain areas can stunt their growth and development in important ways.Many times the concept of protec...
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Season 3
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Episode 105
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48:22
Parenting Adult Children
This one is for parents of adult children, who might be learning about this type of parenting and information for the first time. How do you talk about what you wish you'd done differently? How do you repair what you now see as ruptures?
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Season 2
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Episode 104
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35:14
Adoption
Adoption is beautiful, necessary, and important. It's also hard and often misunderstood. This episode talks about some important ways adoption is misunderstood and how to think about it in a way that might be helpful.
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Season 2
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Episode 103
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46:17
Replay: Attachment
In this episode, we FINALLY talk about attachment, Leah's first love and truly what guides everything she does as a parent and a person.Attachment is a reciprocal relationship between people and begins to develop in utero and continues ...
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Season 2
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Episode 102
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47:56
Replay: Let the Punishment Fit the Crime
This episode talks about consequences, which usually means punishment and often doesn't address the actual problem or behavior. People use these words interchangeably, but they actually are very different.Many people only know two ways ...
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Season 2
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Episode 101
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46:52